Phase 1 — No Contact (Reset)
Not punishment. It’s to calm your nervous system, rebuild routine, and let new data show up.
What to avoid: plead texts, social media jabs, “we need to talk.”
Phase 2 — Soft Reconnection
Low-stakes messages tied to shared interests or mutual logistics. No labels, no relationship talk.
Opener: “Quick q — did that café move? Map shows a new address.”
Phase 3 — Spark Tension
Short, playful callbacks; light teasing; show you’re well and moving forward.
Phase 4 — Plan (Two Choices)
Invite: “Wed or Thu works — 20min coffee catch-up? Your pick.”
Boundaries that help
- Mirror pace. If replies slow, you slow too.
- One clear invite; then let actions speak.
- Protect your sleep/routine — attraction needs stability.
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