5 Secret Signals That Trigger His Obsession

Obsession (the healthy kind) is consistent curiosity + emotional safety. These five signals spark both—without games.

1) Respect-first questions

“You’ve done this before—what would you try here?” It invites leadership and shows trust.

2) Specific appreciation

“You handled that glitch fast—it saved my deadline.” Details beat generic praise.

3) Light touch of challenge

Playful disagreement keeps conversations dynamic. Think: “Convince me 😊”.

4) Shared mission framing

Use “we” for plans and problems: “How do we make next weekend awesome?”

5) Micro-requests

Small, concrete asks he can win at. Momentum builds loyalty.

What to avoid

• Passive-aggressive hints.
• Testing loyalty with silence.
• Scorekeeping favors.